Six Pesach lessons to convey to your children

SARA DEBBIE GUTFREUND

A letter to my children for the seder

It’s a story about last minute hope, about a faith that pulled us forward and helped us take that first step towards freedom. It’s a story about how G-d picked us up and brought us from despair to joy, from darkness to light, from chaos to meaning. It’s a story of the journey of our nation. It’s the story of your great grandparents. It’s my story. It’s your story.

Our stories don’t end. They are passed from generation to generation and each of us adds our own story, of hope, of redemption, of learning how to grow beyond yesterday’s narrow space. Here are some of the lessons from the Passover story that I want you to know.

1. Learn how to ask. Most great achievements in life begin with a question. Be curious. Speak up. Ask! Ask me about the salt water and the parsley. About the matzah and the pillows on our chairs. Ask about the seder plate with the bitter herbs that bring tears to my eyes. All of this is here because I want you to ask me why.

2. Responsibility for each other. We invite all who are hungry to come and eat, because we are responsible for one another. Some people are hungry for food, while others are hungry for wisdom. Whatever we have, we should share as much as we can.

3. Embrace challenges. On our table is salt water which represents our tears. And there are bitter herbs that we will eat to remember the suffering we endured. We speak of our challenges and remember our tears because we can see now how they transformed us, how they moved us, how they taught us how to yearn for freedom. Embrace challenges. Learn from them. Remember them. They brought us to this place today.

4. Take action. Thinking and preparing for change are important steps but what matters in the end is following through with our actions. Matzah teaches us the importance of acting quickly when we know something is the right thing to do.

We didn’t wait for the bread to rise. Instead we grabbed the matzah and ran. Take action whenever you can and as soon as you can. The world is full of great ideas that have never been realised. Matzah teaches us to move, to do, to run towards our goal.

5. Practise Jewish gratitude. Tonight we sing Dayenu. It would have been enough for us if all we did was wake up this morning, but You gave us water. And that would have been enough but in Your great kindness You gave us food, and sight and hearing and legs and hands. This is the kind of gratitude that teaches us during the hardest of days that we have so much to be thankful for. That all of life is an undeserved, precious gift.

6. The meaning of freedom. Some people think freedom means being able to do what we want whenever we want to. But the Jewish definition of freedom is the ability to create a meaningful life with authentic values and to create a close connection with our Creator. Freedom is living a life of constant growth and striving to live up to our potential.

As we gather around the seder table, take this story that has been passed from generation to generation and make it your own. Each of you is a precious treasure for the Jewish people.

This Passover night, I want to tell you a story that because of you, our children, will never end.

Published by kind permission of Aish Hatorah